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"This is a book for men. And this book is fueled by this conviction: "if you want to change a marriage, change the man." (39) -Justin Buzzard (Date Your Wife) "The second he spotted the Serpent, Adam should've crushed the Serpent. He should've rushed straight toward the intruder and eliminated him, keeping his wife safe and sound. But Adam just stood there." (48) -Justin Buzzard (Date Your Wife) "Most men think the mission ends after they marry the woman they love, that the most exciting and rewarding work is over... The reality is that the mission has only just begun." (57) |
"Men, you should have a bigger dream for your marriage than your wife has for your marriage. You are the leader of your marriage." (92)
-Justin Buzzard
“The main threat against which a man must protect his wife is his own sin.” (40) -Douglas Wilson |
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“Our males down here are only a dim, flickering image of what true masculinity is. We do not project our ideas of fatherhood up onto the big screen of the heavens. No, God’s ultimate idea of fatherhood is projected down onto the little screens that each of us carries around.” (50) -Douglas Wilson
“A man who takes a woman to the altar is going there to die to himself.” (126) -Douglas Wilson
My goal for husbands who want to make their wives happy is for them to limit their choices to
win-win solutions to all marital conflicts.
-Willard F. Harley, Jr., Ph.D. -
Giving your wife whatever she wants isn't the way to make her happy. Since you are now partners in life, and everything you do will affect each other, what you do for her must make you happy, too. Otherwise, she will feel unfulfilled and frustrated with your reluctant efforts.
-Willard F. Harley, Jr., Ph.D. -
"It is absolutely inexcusable for a man who follows Christ to stop loving his wife.
- Voddie Baucham, "Family Driven Faith" (Wheaton, IL: Crossway Books, 2007), 21... -
"If parents have raised their children to be great doctors, lawyers, athletes, or musicians, but have not trained them to honor them and obey God, they have failed.” - Voddie Baucham -
"We do not want our children to do what we say with conditions attached. We want them to obey, period. Learning not to repeat ourselves, not to yell, not to call the offending child by all three of his names, but to speak in clear, level tones and follow through with consequences for every act of disobedience has completely transformed our home. No, our children are not perfect, but they understand what obedience is and fully expect a consequence if they fall short of doing what they are told when they are told to do it."- Voddie Baucham, "Family Driven Faith," p. 111.-
"If the fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge, why would we ask those who do not fear the Lord to teach our children?”
– Doug Philips-
The ability to have a passionate, fulfilling relationship requires that a couple balance two natural needs—intimacy and independence. If we don’t consciously balance these needs, what often results is a frustrating struggle caused by the PURSUER/DISTANCER dynamic. Pursuers pursue intimacy, unaware of their need for autonomy. Distancers seek autonomy, unaware of their need for intimacy. -
What counts in making a happy marriage is not so much how compatible you are, but how you deal with incompatibility.
-George Levinger
People don’t have sex to the point of exhaustion the same way they do in their workouts, but it would probably help everything if they did. – David Schnarch
When partners won’t confront themselves they start confronting each other instead, attempting to control their partner to keep from feeling pressured by the marital system – David Schnarch
“The problem in our marriages is not first that we don’t love one another enough; no, the problem is that we don’t love God enough, and because we don’t love God enough, we don’t love one another as we should.” -Tim Keller
